It's easy to have a relationship with someone you don't actually know. Casual comments exchanged with semi-strangers can create an appealing illusion of intimacy. Imagined interactions with distant celebrities can produce a similarly deceptive air of ease. Yet two real people in honest communication will invariably encounter tension. A difficult dialogue is the reason to persevere, not a justification for abandoning a worthwhile challenge. Once you start reading between the lines, you can end up forgetting where the lines actually go. You can become so obsessed with the lines between the lines between the lines, that the obvious eludes you forever more. One person's reality is someone else's fantasy. How then, are any of us ever able to gain a valid objective perspective? The answer, of course, is that we can't achieve this... (Perhaps an easy answer… but do you have a better one??)…but it doesn't matter…because perhaps it is safer to trust our hunch…that gut feeling…butterflies don’t just start up for no reason…surely that is how I like to think!